Mindful Parenting: Who Sets Expectations for Success?

Mindful Talk About Mindful Parenting 

Good morning, folks! I am Jin with Morning Mindfulness Podcast. What a Wonderful day today is! Let’s breathe and smile.

I already talked before on the subject I’ll be discussing now. However, today I was accidentally eavesdropping on a conversation, and what I heard encouraged me to talk about it again.

The conversation was between two ladies about their daughters’ sports activities. One lady said, her daughter is taking swimming, gymnastics, and I think tennis. And here’s a comment that made me do this episode. The lady said, “my daughter does not like gymnastics very much. Besides, she’s too clumsy for it.” Or something very close to that.

I don’t want to judge. This is none of my business. I don’t even know those people. But think about that. Remember the story about Ugly Duckling. How do our kids form their belief system? From their immediate environment, their parents first of all.

I was talking about Law of the Mirror by John Maxwell. People will not invest in themselves more than they think about themselves. If I believe I am not good at something, I won’t be interested in putting much effort developing that particular skill. However skill comes from repetition, and repetition is fueled by thinking. If we don’t have the correct thought process, we won’t succeed. And that’s not just about sports. Math, science, other subjects at school. Choice of profession. This all comes from a thought process. It comes from self esteem, how we see ourselves.

One of my mentors told us that he’s letting his kids pursue any passion they have, as long as they are willing to take it to the level of excellence. Even if it’s not a lifetime dream. This develops character and responsibility and prepares them for the next thing they would love to pursue in life. I think it makes sense. What do you think?

Here’s a couple of interesting books I may suggest:

1. “Predictive Parenting: What to Say When You Talk to Your Kids” by Dr. Shad Helmstetter
2. “The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth” by Dr. John Maxwell – great book about personal growth. This is where you can read about the Law of the Mirror. FREE audiobook available!

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Jin

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